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WHAT IS CAPSTONE SB_RECOVERY?​
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Capstone SB_Recovery (Capstone Sexual Brokenness Recovery) is a ministry that exists to come alongside the local church as a trusted resource in ministering to individuals or couples who have been or are being impacted by pornography and sex addiction.
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WHY DOES CAPSTONE SB_RECOVERY EXIST?​
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People who struggle with sexual brokenness & addiction want answers. “Why do I keep doing this?” “How can I stop?” “What’s wrong with me that I can’t change?”
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They also wrestle with serious beliefs and doubts about themselves. “No one else is as bad as I am.” “I’m just a selfish, awful person.” “If anyone ever found out, that would be it for me.”
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But if you’re here and reading this, something is happening. Maybe you’ve had enough and can’t live another day the way things have been. Maybe you’ve just confessed or been exposed in your addictive behavior. Maybe you’ve just found out that your spouse, fiancée, or significant other has been keeping this secret from you. Maybe you’re a ministry leader who is trying to walk with others through one of the darkest experiences of their lives. Maybe you are a counselor or therapist and you want a resource locally that can offer a Biblically based, 12-step approach to recovery. If you fall into any of these categories, we want to share hope with you...
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WHAT IS SEXUAL ADDICTION?
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1. WHAT IS SEXUAL ADDICTION?
Sexual addiction is a condition that’s marked by a pattern of sexually illicit behavior that has become unmanageable. An escalation in the frequency or intensity of the use of pornography or commercial sexual services is one sign of addiction; another is the intrusion of these behaviors into the primary aspects (career, family life, finances) of an individual’s life.
2. ISN’T THAT THE SAME AS SEXUAL SIN?
Not quite. Sexual sin, while very serious and consequential, does not necessarily indicate addiction. Just as not everyone who gets drunk is an alcoholic, so not everyone who uses pornography or engages in adultery is necessarily sexually addicted. When the behavior begins to escalate and intrude into all parts of life, then it indicates addiction.
4. I’M A CHRISTIAN. I KNOW WHAT I’M DOING IS WRONG. WHY CAN'T I STOP BY JUST READING MY BIBLE OR PRAYING MORE? DON’T I SIMPLY NEED MORE FAITH?
Yours is a common story. Paul said, “The good that I would, I do not. The evil that I would not, that is what I do. What a wretched man am I”(Rom. 7:18,24). We are double-minded and inheritors of original sin. As addicts, we are powerless without God’s help. We need to learn how to have more intimate fellowship with God and with others. It is not that we don’t have faith...we don’t know how to pursue a relationship with Christ in the most humble and willing ways. A part of all sex addicts don’t want to give up the addiction. We must really surrender and find true accountability.
3. HOW IS SEXUAL ADDICTION OVERCOME?
We believe that once a man has given himself to sexually addictive behavior to the extent that he’s addicted, he can be addicted for life. That’s the bad news. The good news is that, like other addictions, sexual addiction can be biblically managed so that the addict need never engage in the addictive behavior. Like the alcoholic who recognizes he’ll always be drawn to alcohol yet abstains from its use, so the sexual addict learns to biblically manage his sinful, sexual desires so that he need never yield to them again. But he must always recognize that they will be a strong source of temptation, and he must make provision for that.
SB_RECOVERY CREED
We are about grace. Scandalous grace. We believe that people cannot change through their own willpower or by learning/trying to carry out Biblical principles in their own strength. Because of this belief we understand we can’t “fix” ourselves or others...only Christ can. We believe that change takes place in community as we take the Gospel of Jesus Christ more deeply into our hearts and understanding. This process is a journey and not a quick-fix formula. Our purpose is to connect at weakness instead of trying to impress with strength. We’re a community who bravely bring our true selves...our fears, insecurities, failures, and sin...and risk being known for who we really are.